Some things, it seems, are just not meant to be. Projects fail. Targets aren’t reached. The outcome we hope for doesn’t arrive. But before we make assumptions and determine something we wanted wasn’t meant to be, it’s worth asking ourselves a few questions.
- Was the outcome outside my control or within my realm of influence?
- Did I try it or did I just decide it wouldn’t work?
- Did I push through when things got tough or did I quit?
- Did I ask for help when I needed it or did I insist on doing it myself?
- Was it really the ONLY way or did I only consider one way?
- Was it too hard or did I not try hard enough?
- Am I unable to do it or am I justifying not doing it with an excuse?
- Is it true that people like me never pull it off or am I unwilling to become the kind of person who CAN pull it off?
- Am I waiting on an authority figure to pick me or am I choosing myself?
- Am I seeking someone else’s permission or am I giving myself permission and moving forward?
- Am I drifting my way through or am I being intentional with my time, my actions, and my efforts?
- Am I comparing my results to someone’s else’s or am I comparing my results to my own potential?
- Am I truly incapable of accomplishing the goal or can I accomplish it by learning and applying new skills?
- Is it really impossible or do I just believe it’s impossible because that’s what those around me are saying?
The Trouble with Assumptions
The problem with assuming it wasn’t meant to be, no matter what “it” is, is that we don’t look deeper into how we developed that belief. And the only way to find out is to go below our surface-level thinking and our emotions to find the real answer.
The next time you catch yourself thinking something isn’t meant to be, stop and ask yourself a series of questions about your assumption. You just might find it is meant to be. And there’s something you can do to make it happen.