To learn how to gain more confidence, we could take a lesson from a four-year old. A tiny professor down the street reminded me this week of a simple truth: confidence comes from doing.
An Unexpected Transformation
Amelia keeps watch most evenings from her front porch waiting for my husband and I to walk by with our two dogs. The moment she sees us, Amelia runs down the driveway and eagerly awaits at edge of the street while her parents follow.
The dogs aim straight for their friend stopping at her feet. Quietly, Amelia kneels on the pavement in front of the two Jack Russell Terriers and gently strokes their backs. She barely says a word to us.
One night, we let Amelia walk one of the dogs, the calm pup. I noticed something interesting in her demeanor as she held the leash and followed the footsteps of four scruffy paws.
Amelia tossed her blonde hair back away from her face, placed her free hand on her hip, and held her head high. The petite dog walker moved down the street like she was walking down a runway in Milan. I’d never heard her speak as much as she did that evening. A natural confidence glowed about her as she engaged in the moment.
Action Breeds Confidence
Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
As adults, we sometimes think confidence is a prerequisite to try something new. We say, “If only I had more confidence, I’d try for a promotion. I’d start that business. I’d take that course.” But we have the order wrong.
Though we may hesitate to take the critical first step, we often realize it’s not so bad once we get started. Before we know it, we have confidence in our new skill and it eventually becomes routine. Suddenly, we begin to wonder what else we’re capable of.
Just as my young teacher demonstrated, taking action leads to confidence.
What is something you’d like to try?